How Can Unleashed Boundaries Sabotage Your Career?

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❓Did You Know:

• Clear boundaries in the workplace can elevate a company from good to great.

• Unclear boundaries often result in burnout, miscommunication, and growing resentment.

• The tricky part? Discerning healthy boundaries from potentially harmful behaviors.

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We are all familiar with boundaries, but are we aware of their importance in maintaining the balance between personal boundaries and career success?

Yet what happens when these boundaries are harshly violated and neglected?

 ✋ A healthy becomes unhealthy.

We've all been there - a peaceful Friday evening disrupted by work-related questions that could have easily waited until Monday. Or finding ourselves trapped in an unwanted conversation, listening to our frustrated colleague talking about another frustrated colleague, drowning us in their personal drama.

And we've all felt that frustration that we never signed up for. 🧨

So, what to do in the situations like this?
The answer lies in setting and maintaining clear boundaries. 

Ensuring boundaries becomes essential in addressing these challenges effectively.

Boundaries: Where Respect Meets Distinction?

Boundaries can be visualized as imaginary guidelines that separate one person from another, these are all mental concepts. At their core, boundaries serve as limits or navigational tools we establish to determine what behaviors or treatment we are willing to accept from others and what we will not tolerate.

The challenging part is knowing when boundaries genuinely keep us safe and when they may turn into toxic traits toward others.

And setting healthy limits with others starts with a crucial step: setting them for yourself.

Self awareness is critical to healthy interpersonal relationships and personal development. While it might seem paradoxical, understanding our own boundaries sometimes is not easy since we set them for ourselves by ourselves.

That is why the journey of self-discovery can be challenging.

Sometimes, our own desires and expectations blur the lines, making it challenging to recognize where our true boundaries lie. It's essential to recognize that not everyone shares the same boundaries. What feels like a comfortable limit for one person might be stifling for another. This diversity of perspectives fosters an atmosphere of empathy and respect.

Here are some points to consider when establishing the boundaries:

• Clarity of Purpose: Understand the purpose behind setting a boundary. Reflect on your emotions and reactions when setting or enforcing boundaries.

• Mutual Respect and Safety: Ensure that your boundaries respect others' feelings and needs by defining your limits and expectations.

• Open and Clear Communication: Clearly communicate your boundaries to others in a respectful manner. Practice active listening and ask open-ended questions to understand the other person's viewpoint better.

• Reflect and Grow: Stay open to feedback from friends, family, or colleagues on how your boundaries affect them. Listen and be willing to adapt if needed. Regularly assess your boundaries' impact on relationships, learn from experiences, and develop healthier boundaries over time. This approach helps protect yourself from toxicity.

Why Are Workplace Boundaries So Important?

How well boundaries are set among employees in the workplace can take a company from ordinary to extraordinary, contributing to more productive and cohesive work environment.

But often, we witness opposite - how weak boundaries lead to overwork and burn out, poor communication, misunderstandings, and, ultimately, resentment towards work and colleagues.

And let me give you an example of the situation that put me as CEO of the company in challenging position but taught me the significance of clear boundaries and open communication.

This situation occurred when three individuals who worked closely together on a daily basis began to develop romantic feelings for each other. What followed was the unraveling of a domino effect, causing conflicts, tension, and negative consequences not just for them, but also for their coworkers. The workplace atmosphere turned uncomfortable and toxic.

To avoid the silence syndrome, it was time to have a conversation with each of them. Although they promised to set more solid boundaries, the underlying resentment had already taken root. And once lost respect toward colleagues, company is hard to gain back.

Colleagues were forced to choose sides, and some become unwilling participants in the unfolding drama.

The situation culminated with one person being let go, and the other two deciding to leave the company. The negative consequences included not only the loss of three valuable workers but also the erosion of both the personal well-being of other workers and the harmonious workplace dynamics.

The first step is recognizing that boundaries are not merely suggestions but essential safeguards for our mental, emotional, and physical health.

Workstyles and generational expectations are continuously changing, and boundaries help navigate these changes effectively.

💡Key Takeaways To Bring With Yourself

• When you want to set boundaries with other you should first start with setting boundaries with yourself.

• Understanding the boundaries we set for ourselves grants us the clarity to differentiate between boundaries that nurture and boundaries that isolate.

• This experience taught me a valuable lesson that without clearly defined boundaries, the line between work and personal life becomes blurred, setting the stage for dramatic situations that exhaust our mental and emotional resources.

• It's everyone's responsibility to maintain these boundaries by fostering an environment where respect, communication, and professional growth are secured.

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Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud, John Townsend

• Clear boundaries are crucial for a healthy lifestyle.

• Boundaries mark our personal responsibilities.

• They define our identity.

• Physical boundaries control touch and interaction.

• Mental boundaries allow personal thoughts and opinions.

• Emotional boundaries manage our feelings and protect from others' harmful emotions.

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